Apparently couples in Western countries say I love you after 14 dates, where as city people will wait until 20.
I stopped counting dates after about 5, it got far too confusing! So as far as counting dates goes, it’s a bit of a fail. I’ve been dating L a month and three weeks. I have no idea how many dates that is, but we see rather a lot of each other, even if it is just for the odd hour sometimes.
I don’t think ‘I love you’ can really be based on dates. That’s way more to do with feelings and all that mumbo jumbo. I’ve never thought oh shit, it’s the 14th date, do I love him yet? Better wait until the 20th just to make sure. Neither of us have said it yet, and that’s absolutely fine. We just say we miss each other 🙂
Where as with sex, I think you count. More because of that stupid cliché of Sex On The Third Date.
The Western average is four dates, I fell into this statistic exactly with L. Although, for a city girl, I should have apparently waited a little longer until 6 dates. Well, what can I say, I’m a country girl really. The thing with sex is, you know if you wait too long, they will just lose interest. Yes, it makes them a dick if they do that, but unless you have a good reason, why wouldn’t you want to?
When I started dating, I always said I wouldn’t kiss the guy on the first date. Who wants to have to kiss a guy on every date? Far too much effort! L managed to kiss me on the first date though, damn it. Statistics say the first or second date, which is pretty usual really. If you haven’t kissed by the third, you’ll have done well to have gotten that far!
Apparently we introduce partners to friends after 6 dates. L met my best friend on the first date, she was in the area on her second date with a guy and I wanted to check him out so they stopped by the bar we were in for drinks. Thankfully this didn’t scare L away at all! I met his friends by the fourth date, as they’re his housemates, and well, we needed his bed!
Meeting the parents comes after 12 dates. I thought that would be more, I mean it apparently takes you 20 to say you love them. Why bother introducing them that early? No wait.. My mom’s visiting next weekend and asked to meet L.
I take that back.
I guess it depends more on how often you see them, how far away parents are etc. My mom wants to know who this man is I’m spending so much time with! As my mom lives 4 hours away, I can’t really say meet him another time. It’s up to L though, not gonna force him to meet her.
Moving in together is just in 60 dates. That seems rather soon! I see L about 3 times a week, and then when we’re not busy on weekends.. so that’s averaging 4 times a week. So in 15 weeks we’re apparently meant to be living together. That’s 4 months, and we’ve already been dating for one! (Unless my math completely sucks?) Erm sorry, I don’t see that happening any time soon.