No no, I’m not talking about college initiation, those horrible little ‘tests’ you hear of. Although.. that could be fun with a partner.. I’m not going to let you date me until you perform cunnilingus successfully…
I’m talking about who initiates sex first.
I tend to initiate sex more. I’m the one who dresses up, buys the lingerie, toys, lubes and brings it all along with me. I swear one day I’m gonna accidentally set something off on the tube and have to take out the array of vibrators, cock rings and bullets to see which is buzzing away!
I generally start the sexting too. And the cheeky photos.
I wasn’t always like this though. Well.. ignoring the whole sex on the first date part 😉
It takes a lot of security and confidence to initiate sex. It’s not as easy as it seems.
I have been shot down so many times in the past by ex’s. You make an effort all the time, and they just take it for granted, ignore you, get off themselves and not give a shit about you.
I’m not expecting men to always be up for it (excuse the pun!), but communication is good. I atleast would like a reason as to why you aren’t going to fuck me, rather than let my mind run wild with insecurities.
Generally, I am able to persuade them otherwise!
On the other hand, what if he’s up for sex more than you?
If I’m not in the mood for sex, I can get in the mood. That’s definitely not a problem, headaches won’t stop me, after all sex is meant to fix them (lies!) I even once felt sick, went for sex and straight home after for feeling so sick and threw up in a taxi. Now that’s dedication!
Are you the initiator, or the initiatee? Do you wish your partner would initiate more?