Are you interested in Ben Wa Balls, but not exactly sure where to start out? These little devils have a long history of various uses, but being a rather simple concept. No matter, we will discuss how to use them here, and for those new to the Ben Wa Ball a brief introduction.
The Ben Wa Ball
Originally considered to be created by Japanese women prior to expanding to China, Vietnam, India, and Europe. It was not until the concept had already spread among the region, that they really became known on a global scale. Traditionally these were designed as hollow brass balls that contained a small heavy ball inside, made from metal or mercury.
Of course, today they are created using various materials that are safe. Essentially, there is an empty ball and a ‘loaded’ ball, the empty one goes in first followed by the loaded ball. The concept is, the loaded ball rolls or moves with every slight movement of your lower body to produce a slight vibration.
Let’s get to the details on how to use the Ben Wa Balls, shall we?
How to insert Ben Wa Balls
When it comes to Ben Wa Balls, you may hear them referred to as being ‘worn’ or ‘inserted’. Either way the concept is a fairly simple process, but it can vary slightly based on the type of set you have. Some may require a slight variation to inserting, but the overall concept remains the same, getting them in position without harming yourself.
Below is a basic step by step guide on safely positioning your Ben Wa Balls:
Lubing Up – The first thing you want to do, like with other sex toys, is to lube them up. This will help them glide on in much easier. Not only is easier, it will be more pleasurable too.
Laying Down – If you are new to Ben Wa Balls, you may prefer laying down at first to insert your ball(s). The reason for this, when laying down your vagina is more relaxed, making it an easier experience than if you were standing.
Use Those Muscles – Are you wondering out they stay in? Simply by the use of your muscles. You will tense your leg muscles and other muscles to keep them in position. You can do Kegel exercises, or use a product like the Lelo Luna Beads to make Kegel exercise more fun.
Get Moving – After inserting, you can freely sit, stand or move around. Keep in mind, the amount of movement will depend on your ability and experience with using Ben Wa Balls or Kegel balls. The more you practice, the easier they will be to hold in while moving.
Below is a list of some common scenarios and tips that you may find helpful when shopping for the right type of Ben Wa Ball for you.
For beginners, a glass or metal ball type could be more challenging to hold and keep in. For this reason, starting with a silicone or plastic style Ben Wa Ball is suggested, especially if you have not recently practiced Kegel exercising.
When looking at reviews or join adult communities, it is common to hear about women wearing their Kegel and Ben Wa balls around the house, as well as in public. There are many that probably do wear them in public or on daily errands. If you are thinking this sounds kinky and you want to try it out, it is highly recommended to wear them around your home until you can comfortably hold them in with heavy activity and/or over a long period. If you try to wear them in public too soon, they may pop out and be very hard to adjust in public without being noticed.
- Although lube helps them slide in easier, remember that your muscles are the only thing keeping them in. The more lube you use (or naturally create) the easier they will slide out too. You should find the balance best for you to learn the right amount of lube to use.
- When you are done, the Ben Wa Balls should be washed after every use. To wash them, simply use warm water and soap. Toy cleaner works as well. If you have silicone balls, ensure cleaner is silicone safe.Some types will be attached to a string, while others may have an outer silicone layer. Ensure to remove the parts and wash the best you can to avoid future contamination. Glass and metal balls (unattached) are the easiest for cleaning.
- Are they stuck? First, do not panic as this only tenses you up and makes it harder to get them out. Just remember how you got them in so easy – lube! If you are having trouble with removing your Ben Wa Balls, it is probably due to a lack of lube. By applying more lube, and relaxing you should be able to remove them.
If they are not attached to a string, simply push or squat after adding the lube and they should pop right out.
Setting Up Expectations
Thanks to the oh so popular Mr. Grey (Fifty Shades of Grey), Ben Wa Balls have become even more known in the bedroom, around the house and of course in public. However, the first step to enjoying them is to have the proper expectations.
The most common complaint regarding Ben Wa Balls, is because of expectations. We highly recommend reading reviews and doing your research to learn exactly what to expect from the type of Ben Wa balls you are looking at. The feel and experience between a plastic or silicone set compared to an unattached metal or glass set can vary greatly.