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Body Shaming

April 23, 2018 by Vikki Vines

Body shaming is unfortunately something which appears everywhere. In magazines, on television, even social media is full of adverts to ‘lose weight instantly’. They want us to be more tanned, skinnier, taller, slimmer, smoother. Why? To sell their products. Celebrities are seen with circles drawn around them picking out their flaws in bad angled photographs. People are encourage to nip and tuck until they look like Barbie dolls.

For the most of us though, we have become ignorant to this. We ignore the adverts, say screw the diet fads and are happy with what we have. Proud of our bodies. It’s not easy to get to the point of saying ‘Fuck it’ though, not when everyone is against you. Even my Grandma saying I have chubby thighs. But ‘respect your elders’ and all, I kept quiet.

The thing is though, this won’t stop others from saying things. Some are brain washed by the media to think that every body is perfect, everyone is airbrushed and photoshopped and cellulite doesn’t really exist. They want a barbie army.

I’m lucky as I am part of such a fantastic community of people who are beautiful no matter what their shape, size, color, height, sex, orientation etc. Being comfortable in your own skin is an amazing thing, but it doesn’t mean you always are.

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
― Eleanor Roosevelt

I posted a photo and being honest, I was thinking more about how scruffy my hair looked than my ass! However someone found the need to comment on my appearance, voicing their concern. Their concern that my ass and legs were going downhill. Oh. You’re concerned? They advised I squat regularly. I was genuinely speechless.

As I mentioned though, I am part of an amazing community who all had something to say on the matter. Not only did I have support on twitter, there were twenty eight more comments, twenty eight proud voices who were able to stand up and say “Fuck you”.

When someone challenges your body negatively or anyone else’s for that matter, you have the right to put them in their place. It is bullying and it is not acceptable.

If I see anyone being body shamed, I will happily lend my support and help that person have a voice when they feel they don’t.

One of the biggest issues about feeling bad about our bodies is that we don’t love our bodies as we should and then we become insecure which makes it much harder to enjoy intimate moments with a partner if you’re thinking about your thighs or cellulite or whatever.  Some even insist on having the lights off because they’re so uncomfortable with their own bodies.  It’s such a shame because you’re missing out on exploring your sexuality and all the massive amounts of pleasure that come with it.  The most attractive woman in the world is the woman who is comfortable with herself, confident in the bedroom and puts in some effort.

If you are insecure about your body, ask yourself this question, is your partners body perfect?

Neither of you are perfect and never will be so just enjoy yourselves and be grateful you’re alive and have your health.

Filed Under: Blog

Jelly Sex Toys: I Am So Not Jell

April 17, 2018 by Vikki Vines

Who has a jelly sex toy? I have one. It since went in the bin.  There are 2 major issues with jelly.

The first problem with jelly is, well, it’s jelly! So lets take this literally. If you got a bowl full of jelly, and accidentally dropped it on the floor, what would happen? It would get covered in dirt, hair, dust, bacteria and so on. The same with the vibrator, it’s filthy.  So why not just clean it?  Well you can, but it’s porous.  The bacteria and germs get everywhere and it’s very hard to clean properly, just as it would be to try and wash off jelly.

The second problem is that it may contain phthalates.  It is suggested that you use a condom on your jelly toys, as they may contain phthalates, but what’s the fun in that?  If you’re staring at that word thinking what on earth are they?! I’ll tell you.  It’s pronounced ‘Tha-layts’ and they are esters of phthalic acid which are used to increase the jellys flexibility, durability and transparency.  There are loads of health risks to it though, including breast cancer and infertility.  Even though most companies have got rid of phthalates and jelly products should be safe you have to be super careful and make sure you buy from a company you trust.  Always avoid jelly toys that don’t state their ingredients.

Jelly sex toys can be an inexpensive option but you get what you pay for.  If you do have them or use them, use a condom to protect yourself.  Personally I hate using condoms with sex toys so don’t use jelly toys.  There are so many options out there I don’t see the point in putting yourself at risk and not enjoying the event as much because I have to put a condom over a sex toy!

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Control Me, Because I Said So

April 9, 2018 by Vikki Vines

 

I got a male friend who’s into kinkier stuff than most to write this piece

 

So when the lovely owner of this blog requested I write something for her on spanking (she’s a bit kinky that one) I was stumped for a bit.

For many spanking, or any form of sado-masochism, is about as welcome as an invitation to give the Queen a vajazzling but for most there is at least a slight sense of curiosity on the subject (like what the queen getting a vajazzling actually looks like). It’s what makes us human (that is to say curiosity NOT vajazzling!)

So why the turn on for something that inherently causes pain to somebody you at the least want to be intimate with and at the most are in love with? What is it about an act that many of us experienced as a child when we’d misbehaved? (oh let’s not take the Freudian route here)

Is it its taboo reputation? A secret shared between people; whispered in dark corners of polite society? Well no. Not anymore anyway. Sex is (and quite rightfully) the cornerstone of the world we live in. People use it to flog bottles of perfume, or cars, or even raise awareness of veganism. It’s everywhere and that includes the harder stuff too; head off to the cinema right now and watch A Dangerous Method and you can see Michael Fassbender give Keira Knightley some very crimson cheeks. (two mentions of Freud in a few paragraphs, this cannot be a good thing!)

So S&M is hardly that much of a taboo anymore? Well I mean it is, having your gran find a whip or a full length PVC costume complete with apple gag might make for a particularly interesting conversation, but it’s no longer grounds for a social ostracizing.

Whilst common sense on this is outstripping redundant law the curiosity and the predilection still remain. So here’s what I think it’s all about: Power.

Generally (and yes there are lots of exceptions which is why it’s a generalization) people think power relationships are easy: guys enjoy being in control and girls enjoy being dominated. Now I’m struggling to think of a better demonstration of power than taking a girl over your knee and spanking her as unfortunately huge parades of tanks, missiles, and soldiers just don’t do it for most girls. (If only someone had told Joseph Stalin we might have avoided the Cold War)

But paradoxically a confident girl who likes to be in control is sexier than a Ferrari driven by 4 playboy bunnies dressed in money to those blessed with a Y chromosome. Which makes me think that women don’t want to be dominated; it’s deeper than that. Instead they allow themselves to be dominated and thus never resign control. They can always say stop or give instructions. So in essence you’re left with a girl who is full of sexual confidence, in complete control, and allowing the man to spank her.  You could spank her over a sex pillow so that you can move straight in to position once the spanking is done.  Other light kink stuff could be using anal beads if you’re up for something different.

Now isn’t that a sexy thought?

We might not all have a penchant for S&M but we all definitely have a fetish for power.

Enjoy.

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Boys And Their Toys

April 3, 2018 by Vikki Vines

A lot of men are rather interested in the reviews I write. I get quite a few curious messages. What are all these toys women have? And why do they get to have all the fun? There are even men out there who have no idea what all these toys are for. To be fair, even I look at them and think ‘What on Earth is that for?!‘

Men, there are a lot of toys on the market for you too. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to play with toys as well. Add an extra special something to make masturbation better, why not?

It’s a shame that men still seem to think that there’s a bit stigma about them playing with sex toys. What would your partner think if she caught you playing with hers? Come on, admit it. You’ve all had that bit of curiosity as to what all the fuss is about. Can that little toy really cause so much pleasure? Then what would your mates think if they found out? If you put a toy up your bum does it really make you gay? Of course not!

The irony is that even though men don’t use sex toys as much as women as there is stigma associated with it, they are more likely to frequent sex workers.  If you’ve ever wondered what a sex worker thinks and what their life is like and all the different issues they face, check out The Honest Courtesan as she’s got a really popular blog.

So I had an ask about on Twitter, and here’s some questions you had for me:

I’ve always wondered about triple play toys, knew one girl who loved them!

Not sure what a triple stimulating toy is? Most commonly a vibrator, with the addition of ‘ears’ for clitoral stimulation and an anal probe.

You thought your Jessica Rabbit was good? Well this is basically the upgrade with extra stimulation. Hitting your g spot, clitoris, and all the nerve endings in her anus, well, no wonder she loved it!

Are male and female toys interchangeable?

Well this of course depends on the toy, as long as it is used appropriately I don’t see why not! Any anal toys will be interchangeable, after all, that area is pretty much the same. However where it massages the male prostate, the toy may instead stimulate the woman’s g spot.

Men can use women’s vibrators to stimulate their perineum and testicles, nipples, and anywhere else you fancy.

Nipple clamps? Go ahead. You can use anything a woman has, just ensure if it is going to be used for anal that it is safe first with a flared base. I would say the only thing that not would be of interest to men would be a standard dildo.

As for a woman trying to use a Fleshlight, well, what are you going to do with that?

If you’re sharing toys, ensure they are cleaned thoroughly!

When is it okay to buy a woman for a sex toy?

Well, I wouldn’t recommend buying sex toys for complete strangers. You have to know a woman quite well to buy her a sex toy, to know what she likes of course. First, check that the woman actually likes sex toys. Offending someone with a toy isn’t a great start. Unfortunately, not all women are open to them.

I’m not going to say you have to be in a relationship to buy a woman a toy, as quite often male friends will buy women toys for birthdays etc. It’s more common than you think. I’d make it something quite quirky in that instance though, duck anyone?

If you are in a relationships though, just ask your woman! There’s nothing worse than being disappointed with a toy you didn’t want, believe me.

 

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We-Vibe Tango Review – It only takes one to tango!

March 28, 2018 by Vikki Vines

It was about that time again, I had become bored with my collection and wanted a new toy. So, I set out to find one! I knew what I wanted, it needed to be small and discreet bullet vibrator, because I travel all the time. It also needed to be quite enough to use in another room and no one knowing as I have a roommate. I found many that fit the description, but none quite like the We-Vibe Tango. It has a line of vibes that have many feature, high quality materials, and highly recommended by others. So, I ordered it.

We-Vibe Tango Lipstick USB Rechargeable Bullet Vibrator

We Vibe Tango packs a punch

I could not wait for it to arrive, I was so excited that when it came I went inside and opened it right away. My first thought was, how did something so small offer all the pleasure that people were talking about? It measures just 3.5” in length, 2.25” in girth. It provides the length for internal pleasure, but the girth may not be enough for some.

It is designed with a tip that offers the ability to pinpoint where you want the vibrations and pleasure, with little work. This means it is great for direct clitoris stimulation, but can also be used on the labia, or on a partner. Men can enjoy the pleasure of using the We-Vibe Tango as well, using it to stimulation the head of his penis or the testicles. If you are new to toys in the bedroom, this is a good multi-functional option to start out with.

On top of the design being made for directing pleasure, it is also waterproof. This increase the possibilities of use, as you will be able to take it with you in the shower, bath, pool, pretty much where ever you want to use it. You are going to find this enhances partner play as well.

It is created using quality materials that last. Other than the button, it is plastic, and the button is made from silicone. The end has to metal bumps, which is used for charging. Usually, plastic is not considered high quality material, but the We-Vibe Tango makes it an exception. It is body safe, hard, and comes in blue or pink.

It is rechargeable, meaning you will be able to have it ready to go when you are. It has 8 speeds to choose from, allowing you to really customize your experience. You are going to have your basic, low, mediums, and highs, with several patterns too.  A single charge can last up to 2 hours.

Pros:

  • Rechargeable
  • Waterproof
  • Multiple Speeds

Cons:

  • Girth may be to small

Verdict:

Overall, I am happy that I purchased the We-Vibe Tango and it has become my new best friend. I find the 8 speeds give me plenty of ways to customize my sessions, and my partner really enjoys it too. I have recommended it to a couple people already!

Another popular We-Vibe product is the We-Vibe 4 Plus.

Filed Under: Blog, Clitoral vibrator reviews, Reviews

Sex Pillow – Sex Wedge Guide

March 25, 2018 by Vikki Vines

Have you tried just about every position that you can think of and even those that you have found on the internet with your partner in bed? Why not take a chance and explore the world of sex pillows which are a type of sex furniture? Sex pillows and sex swings are the most popular type of sex furniture.  A sex pillow will not only make your sex life a bit better and a little more exotic, but it will also add some comfort for both you and your partner. Let’s face it there are some positions that we do for partners that can be uncomfortable, but with a sex pillow, it can help to relieve some of that pressure and pain in your muscles and joints from the weird positions that you can think of.

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Okay so what is a sex pillow? This is basically a special type of pillow that was designed for you to use during various sexual positions. They come in all sorts of shapes but the most common shape for a sex pillow is a wedge that’s why a sex pillow can be called a sex wedge as well.

Why buy a sex wedge?

Most people never really consider getting a sex pillow until that moment when sex becomes uncomfortable and begins to hurt. It is especially bad for those who have memory foam beds. If you have back pain, these sex pillows are going to be a god send. Basically, it doesn’t matter if you have mobility issues or you are just looking to spice up your sex life a bit, you certainly will not go wrong when you invest in a good sex pillow. These products are going to turn all your favorite positions into the best feeling ever as it removes the strain on your shoulders, hips, waist and back. Not to mention that they can help you to explore more adventurous positions that you have never been able to do and even add more depth and sensation to your already great sex life.

Sex Pillow – what to consider when buying one

When it comes to choosing a great sex pillow there are a few things that you will want to check out, especially if it is your first time purchasing one. You could get overwhelmed by how many options there are on the market. Don’t freak out, as just look for these factors to help you to find the right type of sex pillow for you and your partner, or just for you as sex pillows also make masturbation quite fun.

sex wedge

sex wedge

Think about the size

Sex pillows can be put into 2 categories: wedges and ramps. Ramps are going to be bigger pieces that were made to support your lower torso and entire back, however you can use them in a variety of ways. Wedges are much smaller sex pillows that are meant to add support to certain areas like raising your butt up to allow your partner to penetrate you much deeper when in missionary position.

Now not all ramps and wedges are going to be the same size. They make some that are so large that they take up a heck of a lot of space on the bed, and there are others that are so small that you can discretely hide them under your bed. It is really up to you to figure out what size you are looking for based on your preferences and needs.

Check out material types

Many sex pillows come with 2 parts: the cover and the foam. You are going to want to pick a pillow that is made with a medical grade foam or a high-quality foam. This helps to ensure that you will have a comfortable and soft pillow that is firm enough to give you plenty of support.

Now the cover, is normally made from microfiber and there are some pillows that will come with velvet or other fabric covers. You will want to pick a fabric that can be easily removed and throw in your washer for easy cleaning. Also look for brands that give you a waterproof liner for your foam. This is perfect as it helps to protect your foam from massage oils, lubricants, various liquids and your own body fluids from ruining the foam. This helps your sex pillow to last much longer.

Check out the design

There are some sex wedges and ramps that have just a slope that is pretty plain, then you have the models that have gentle curves. It is up to you on which one will fit your needs. If you have a decent budget, check out both models to see which one will give you the most pleasure during your sexcapades.

Is it portable?

Let’s be honest, some of us travel a lot so ask yourself are your going to need to bring your sex pillow with you or can you just leave it at home. There are some sex pillows that are way to heavy to carry around and are designed to be used at home only, while there are some that are inflatable and can be placed in your suitcase or purse when you are traveling.

Popular Sex Pillows

Okay! Now that you have most of the basics about sex pillows, let’s get shopping for one. You can explore the list below which are great models that you can use. They are the best options that are on the market right now and are highly rated by those who have purchased and used them.

24 Inch Ramp/Wedge Combo by Liberator

When it comes to sex pillows, this is the Cadillac of models. There are a lot of reasons that it is called the best. Everyone loves the feelings that come with using this model. It is made from a high-density foam and covered with a microfiber cover and it feels super soft. When you have sex on it, you will notice that the sensations from laying on it and being explored make it much more intense.

showerhead

The shape of this sex pillow is certainly something that will give you plenty of options to try out especially if you are planning to use the Kama Sutra as way to get more adventurous. The two pieces can work on their own or together when it is needed. Just let your imagination run wild and enjoy the wild ride that you are going to receive on this pillow.

Jaz Positioning Pillow by Liberator

If you are not a really heavy person, and you are looking for a bit of variety in sex, then you will love this product. The Jaz is ranked second in rankings. Just take a look at the design of it and really think of all the things that you could do with it. I bet you just started blushing at all the naughty things that just popped into your head. If not, we can throw some suggestions out there for you.

You can do everything from vanilla missionary to doggy and even make it easier for oral on you or your partner. The oval shape of this wedge is perfect for oral and that means giving and receiving. But let’s face it we are all about receiving than giving. The best part of this pillow, is that you can set it for your height, favorite position and variations. Not to mention the price that really helps to take the cake.

Sex Pillow for Couples by Toughage

Are you a big fan of anal sex? Or you are wanting to surprise your partner with it sometime? This pillow is one of the best pillows out there for basically any position that your nasty mind can come up with. But the magic of this pillow really happens when you start thinking about anal sex.

cleaning

It is a specialized wedge-shaped pillow that is made from some high-grade foam that is super easy to clean, and that goes for the cover as well and it is easy to store because of the shape and size. The wedge shape really holds plenty of options for both you and your partner. So, the worries about reaching maximum penetration are now going to be a think of the past with this great sex pillow. Besides using this pillow for sex, you can also use it in your daily life. It doesn’t even look like a sex pillow. You can use it to rest on and even to give you some support when you are reading books in bed. The versatility of this pillow makes it a multipurpose pillow for sex and your home.

PF3101 Inflatable Sex Pillow for Couples by Toughage

If you are a traveler and like to have some fun with your partner or someone else, we aren’t judging, this pillow is one of those products that you can pack up and take with you without people ever knowing what it is until it is inflated. This sex pillow has plenty of perks. It is safe and soft for people of all ages. The foam is elastic enough to keep bouncing back the strokes given for a long time. It can also handle plenty of weight. This is one of those pillows that works for just about anyone.

Sex Pillow Wrap Up

Now that you have been through which pillows can rock your world that are on the market right now and you have some information about what to look for, it is up to you to get out there and find the sex pillow of your dreams.

 

 

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Pimp Up Your Sex Life With The Sex Furniture Guide

March 8, 2018 by Vikki Vines

Sex furniture, also popularly known as erotic furniture, is a type of furniture that is used to enhance or aid certain sex positions. This type of furniture has been gaining popularity due to the way it makes sex more exciting and enjoyable. They also serve the purpose of introducing newbie’s to the world of sexual exploration and adventure. Sex furniture can also assist anyone with a physical handicap or with an injury that is making him or her not be able to enjoy sex or certain sexual positions.

cheeky wink model

Awkward wink time

If for some reason a certain sex position has eluded you or you want to enhance your sex fantasy, then you could consider pimping up your sex life with the appropriate style of sex furniture. For this article we have teamed up with Singapore Stories to bring to you a sex furniture guide that goes through some of the best that aid in sexual pleasure and exploration.

Have I got your attention

Have I got your attention?

Popular Sex Furniture Options

The Wedge

sex wedge

sex wedge

This is a triangular piece of foam which is meant to help bring support to your body in order to maintain a good position that is comfortable and enhances uninterrupted and deeper penetrations. They come in different sizes for everybody. It enhances pleasure for extended periods of time with an enjoyable sexual adventure. Check out my sex wedge guide.

Queening Stools

Queening stool

Queening stool

Queening stools are a type of sex furniture that allows one partner to be seated whilst receiving oral sex by the other partner who lies beneath the stool. Queening also known as kinging or face sitting often incorporates the partner that is lying down to be restrained to allow forced oral, genital or anal stimulation.  The stool has an opening on the seat for ease of accessibility when having sex and allows a variety of sexual positions for enhanced oral pleasure. Both partners can have complete comfort whether they are on the receiving or on the giving end.

BDSM Bondage Board

A bondage board is a type of sex furniture that is designed to be used as a complete BDSM fantasy for sexual pleasure. It is a portable board which has straps and restraints to help gain full access to your partner’s sex organ. Your partner is restrained relinquishing control and allowing themselves to be dominated. It comes with thick padding to increase the hours you may use it, since your partner will feel more comfortable it will give you extended play time.  Some versions have carrying handles for when you want to have bound sex on the go.

Sex Gliders

sex glider

sex glider

Sex gliders are a type of fucking machine that may or may not have a vibrator attached to a dildo that thrusts with a rocking motion.  Some versions also have a handle at the front that allows you to thrust the dildo whilst sitting in a stationary position.  They are designed for independent solo play.   They are sometimes called a monkey rocker or glider chair.  This effective furniture comes in form of a stool with a dildo within it that is used to straddle and rock back and forth for sexual adventure.

For the best sex experiences thrust the dildo back and forth and then increase the momentum until you reach orgasmic pleasure. Despite the fact that sex gliders are meant for one some people find it difficult to maintain their thrusting momentum during orgasm and your partner can be helpful here.

Sex Swings and Slings

sex swing

sex swing

Sex Swings and slings are the best addition to a person’s sex life as they make sex enjoyable and exciting. A partner sits on it during sex. They are mostly fixed on frames or independent stands in order to make them firm and stable. They aid in thrusting and allow you to penetrate much deeper improving difficult positions making them effective and manageable.  As these devices support the person in it there is very little body weight allowing unique positions to be reached.

The below youtube vid shows some positions and how it’s used.  It’s youtube so it’s not hardcore stuff.  The actors remain clothed (to some degree) the whole time so it’s not porn.  I refer to them as “actors” but the looks on their faces are priceless!  It’s simulating positions using a sex swing and they have some clothes on but if you’re offended by that, don’t watch!

The Fuck Bench

Also known as the fucking bench is an adjustable bench that has hand and leg supports with ties that allows you to tie your partner with during sex. They are best used for bondage sex and this bench will help in restraining the person on it securely. Many benches are adjustable allowing you to tailor the exact height that is best for sex.  The fuck bench is limited to the doggy style position and often incorporated into the sexual play are anal hooks or vaginal hooks.

Trio Love Cushion

trio love cushion

trio love cushion

The trio love cushion is designed in such a way that it allows the user to assume a comfortable sitting posture whilst being penetrated by one or two dildos that you can sit on.  Both men and women can use it to become incredibly pleasured. Many of the dildos have a vibrator and can be used vaginally, anally or with two dildos for double penetration.

Bondage Frame Table

This is a handy style of sex furniture that can be made with leather, timber or steel.  It somewhat resembles a massage table and will have holes cut in it for different sexual activities and positions.  Most are at least 2 meters in length and can be used in various positions of inclination from flat to standing upright.  It best suits different sex styles and positions due to its adjustable nature and is often used for BDSM play or strap bondage.  It comes with multiple holes with hoops, straps, and ropes and the frame table allows you to have sex with your partner while standing, lying, or even when inclined in different positions. The bondage straps are used to restrain a partner from movement during sex for uninterrupted thrusting.

Inflated Sex Pillow

sex pillow

sex pillow

An inflated sex pillow is a perfect and simple way to enhance solo or couples pleasure for both men and women. It suits those romantic getaways where you can inflate it and deflate it easily. It can be placed inside your bag without anyone noticing or knowing what it is. The pillow will allow you to increase the amount of erotic positions you can reach as well as achieving deeper thrusts during penetrative sex.  It is a fun and vanilla sex aid.

ESSE Chaise with headrest

esse chair

esse chair

Chaises are the epitome of sexual fantasy and play which are used to enhance comfort during sex. Designed in such a way that it follows the contours of the human body to give your partner a comfortable headrest during sex.  Another function of the headrest is to move it to different positions of the body allowing exploration that will increase pleasure and enhance intimate enjoyment. It is often used to aid the doggy style sex position for deeper penetration.

You’ll see some examples of how to use it in the youtube clip below.  It’s youtube so it’s not hardcore stuff, they’re clothed the whole time!

Sex Beds

Sex beds are not the typical sleeping beds but are specially designed beds which aid in sexual activity. They are curved, more comfortable, and can sustain different types of sex positions which brings more complete and pleasurable sex. They come with straps and ropes which can be used to restrain your partner while having sex.

If you want to pimp up your sex life, then trying sex furniture may be the best way to improve sex. When it comes to sex furniture, there is definitely something for everyone. You just need to figure out what you want and you will be on the road to better sexual experiences and adventures.

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Anal Beads

February 22, 2018 by Vikki Vines

Individual sexual choices and lifestyles vary greatly from person to person and when exploring sex and sexuality what will do it for one may be a total turn-off for another.  Anal play has been practiced by humans for thousands of years.  The ancient Romans, Egyptians and Greeks were fascinated by it.  It is thought that the first use of beads for sex play was by Cleopatra who also had images depicted of her using a dildo.  Olive oil was commonly used as a lubricant and Petronius a Roman courtier 27-66AD wrote in his novel:

“Oenothea held up a leather dildo which she oiled and covered in pepper and crushed nettle seeds and began pushing it up my arsehole, inch by inch.”

With anal play growing in popularity throughout history, people can now buy anal beads at sex toy stores.  With this in mind I wanted to explore the practices of anal play through the use of anal beads.

What are anal beads?

Anal beads are sex toys that consist of multiple spheres, balls and other circular or cylindrical shapes that are held together to form a line that is inserted into the anus to give erotic pleasure.  The most popular are tapered in size the end bit (the side you insert first) being the smallest and increasing in size with each ball.  Other variations may be all the same size or randomly different sizes.  These balls may be held together by a string (Thai beads) or the same material as the balls whether that is rubber, plastic, latex, glass, silicone or steel.  Anal beads may be vibrating or non-vibrating.

anal beads

Curved anal beads are very common

Versatility is the beauty of anal beads as they can be used in solo play, foreplay, couples play and as a prelude or conclusion to anal sex.  They can also be used either by men who will stimulate their prostate and achieve a ‘P-spot orgasm’ or by women who do not have a prostate but would like to experience ‘anal orgasms’.  The smaller sizes can be used for beginners of anal play.  Another option for beginners to anal play is butt plugs.  You can read about my first adventure with anal and butt plugs here.

rigid anal beads

Another popular type of anal beads are rigid, straight anal beads

They’ve also been really popular in popular culture as evidenced by these two clips:

 

How to use anal beads

The most common way for women to use them is to slowly insert them, stopping as each bead passes through the narrow sphincters in the anus.  As the balls increase it will cause dilation until the largest size is reached.  Some women will repeat this procedure whilst others will then move the beads inwards and outwards increasing speed to simulate real anal sex.  Men will insert the beads into the anus until the Prostate gland is found.  Then they will stimulate it by moving it backwards and forwards over the prostate to cause an ejaculation.  This method is called ‘milking the prostate’.

Another method that is very popular with Thai Beads is to fully insert the string and balls. Then lightly jiggle the string with slight pressure that will cause each ball to ‘pop’ out of the anus. When the ball or bead is between the internal and external sphincter muscles it will cause constriction of the anus.

Couples play

During couples sex anal beads are often introduced just prior to the woman orgasming vaginally. This will intensify the orgasm and in many cases women report having intense blended orgasms.  A blended orgasm is when an orgasm is experienced simultaneously from two different parts of the body.  Women can achieve orgasm from the clitoris, labia, vagina, G-spot, A-spot and anally as a result of stimulation or penetration. Men experience orgasms from the penis and the Prostate.

Will you enjoy it?

Rather than just using the anal beads on their own, they can also be inserted into the vagina or anus during penetrative sex. If you are planning on using anal beads in this way it is recommended that the anal beads have a method of retrieval that will not be dislodged during penetration. When the anal beads of fully inserted, a lover can insert their erection or dildo inside and gently thrust. The anal beads will move alongside the thrusts for additional stimulation.

Use lube!

 

lube

You’ll need lube

As with any sexual activity revolving around the anus plenty of lubricant should be used.  The anus does not self-lubricate and also absorbs water so re-application is often required.  Also if any part of the anal beads is porous, like the string, attention to disinfection and cleaning of the sex toy before and after each use is imperative to ensure safety.  Any anal toys should not be shared, but if they are precautions such as placing a condom over it and using anti-bacterial spray should be used.

Anal Beads Wrap up

There is a high concentration of nerve endings in and around the anus that will allow intense sexual enjoyment when using anal beads if done properly.  The pudendal nerve in the external sphincter muscle actually branches to the dorsal nerve of the clitoris in women and the penis in men.  This is why many fetishes are known to include anal beads to heighten sexual desire and/or gratification during intimate play.  More popular ones include ass worship, enema play, BDSM, spanking, cuckold play, pegging and of course anal sex.  Check out my anal sex guide.

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Trying an oil based lube

February 15, 2018 by Vikki Vines

Lube guilt?

The first thing I wanted to discuss is that it’s not unusual to use lube.  For me, using lube is just a part of life, it’s just the way it is, I don’t think anything of it.  It’s just lube people!  It’s a different story for others though, many women feel a bit of shame about not producing enough juice when they need to but this is absolutely ridiculous, you shouldn’t feel any guilt or shame over it.  It just is what it is, sometimes you won’t produce enough of your own lubrication and you need a helping hand.  There’s no shame and no stigma to it.

My health kick

As time passes I’m trying to eliminate more of the harmful chemicals that I use in my life.  Everything from washing detergent to hand sanitizer to dish washing liquid to just about everything I eat or drink I’ve tried to eliminate harmful chemicals.  Then I thought to myself, I use lube, I literally insert this stuff into my vagina, my most intimate area and I have no idea what’s in it so I checked.

What’s in standard lube?

When most people think of lube they think of your standard lube from the standard big companies that sell at the drug store.  The lube you’re thinking of is generally water based, so far so good right?  The issue is it can have a bunch of crap in them like Glycerin, Hydroxyethycellulose, Chlorhexidine, Gluconate, Gluconolactone, Methylparaben, Sodium Hydroxide and preservatives.

All that stuff is clearly not natural.  If that crap isn’t the type of stuff you want in such a delicate area, you should look for an alternative.  I was looking for an alternative and I knew of Jerome (I didn’t know him personally but I knew of him from his blog) from http://www.ltasex.com/ and I knew he had created a lube which was different to the mainstream and I decided to give it a go.  The lube that his company manufactures is called the Butters Lube.

What’s in the Butters lube?

butters-original

Aloe vera gel, raw shea butter, pure coconut oil, pure extra virgin olive oil, pure grapeseed oil, pure palm kernel oil, pure soy lipid emulsion, apple cider vinegar, guar bean powder.

What’s not in it:

Scents, dyes, glycerine, sweeteners, parabens, alcohol, fillers, artificial stabilizers and thickeners, gluten, or phthalates.

Other important info

It’s 100% vegan, edible and wheat/gluten free.  The last thing you want with a gluten allergy is to go down on someone that’s got lube on and then end up with an upset stomach!  It would be awkward.

The test

The first thing that struck me about the product is just how different it is.  It has such a different texture and color.  When you’re used to using a certain type of product, when you use something completely different you might be a little apprehensive at first, I was.  I was a bit worried that I’d be turned off by the smell or the taste because of the oil but I wasn’t at all.  The smell and taste are very faint so I had nothing to worry about.

The Butters lube just felt luxurious to touch, unlike other lubes which are completely boring.  Now that I’ve used the Butters, other lubes remind me of hand sanitizer in color and texture so I’ll never be going back to your standard drug store lube.  Seriously, it is not sexy pulling out something that reminds me of hand sanitizer just before I’m about to get down to business.  Even the packaging of drug store lube is so boring and has zero style.

How it worked for me

I was shocked at the performance, it kept me wetter for longer and because I was using a product that’s a luxury product, my sessions just feel classier now.  It works much better than regular lube which tend to dry me out after a while.  Have I been living under a rock all these years?  How the hell could I not know that oil based lubes actually work better?

Another benefit is my partner likes to rub my chest and lube it up and it’s a good feeling.  I wouldn’t do that with normal lube because I’d feel kind of gross.

For men.

I used it on my partner, a man and usually when giving him an erotic massage I’ll spend a lot of time teasing him when I’m jerking him off and the sessions can last a long time.  I used to use normal lube and have to reapply a few times which sort of breaks the momentum and the moment.  I thought that it was just a part of it because I didn’t know any better.  Both he and I much prefer using the Butters lube to help rub one out for him.

Wrapping up

As a bonus it helps with yeast infections because all the fatty acids from the oils are really healthy for you.

Because it’s oil based, it’s not recommended for use with condoms.

The price is ridiculously good.  One of the reasons people don’t try healthier, more environmentally/animal conscious products is the price is much higher than what you’re used to paying for a product.  At the price point of the Butters you’ve got very little to lose because the price is really good.

So to sum up, it works better, it’s safer on your body, the price is great and it’s much more pleasant to use than regular lube.

 

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Venturing into butt plugs

February 8, 2018 by Vikki Vines

I’ve tried dozens of different vibrators and dildos of all kinds, have ventured into kink and some BDSM but I’ve had a bit of a sacred spot which I or no one else has never ventured into even though many have tried.  I’ve never ventured into the unknown of anal play.   It’s something my partner was interested in so I thought to myself what hell, I don’t have much to lose.  There’s nothing better than exploring your sexuality so some anal play was just another step in that direction, the unknown and I was excited.

 

Anal Play – take 1

Even though I knew that I should start off with something smaller than a penis, I also knew it was something special so my first anal experience went to my partner, I let him be the first which of course he absolutely loved.  Men love nothing more than planting their flag somewhere like they’re the first man on the moon or getting to the top of a high mountain.  I was a bit apprehensive of what the sensation would be, would it hurt?  Would it feel like I was on the toilet endlessly?  I was also a bit scared of what it would smell like.

We were well prepared, we had lube, I was ready, he was ready, it was go time but then he only got a little part of his dick in and that was it, I was done.  It’s fair to say, it was a massive fail and I should have started off with something smaller but hey, we all make mistakes.  At least he was still the first and it still counts!  It was just way too uncomfortable but I decided that I still wanted to explore anal play but needed something a lot smaller than a dick so I decided I’d delve into the wonderful world of butt plugs.

 

Butt plug selection

Most butt plugs look cheap and nasty so I ruled them out quickly.  I wanted something classy, stylish, non-threatening, body safe and for beginners.  I searched around and asked for recommendations and finally decided I’d try the b-Vibe Novice Plug.

 

b-Vibe Novice Plug

I’d heard of the company b-Vibe and I knew that the founder Alicia Sinclair had a great reputation within the industry so I trusted them with my anus, my precious, precious anus.

One of the things that drew me to the b-Vibe Novice Plug was that it also vibrates.  I thought, if I’ve just got a plug up my butt, it might be a bit boring.  Then I thought, if I’ve got a butt plug up my butt that vibrates, that would be more fun.

Another thing that drew me to the Novice Plug is it also comes with a remote control that either I or my partner could control and that was massive for me because I wanted my partner to be involved in the whole anal experience and be a part of my new adventure.

 

b-Vibe Novice Plug specs

I know many readers like to see an unboxing of a product so here you go

 

The insertable length is 3.35” and the insertable diameter is 1inch at the widest part.  It has a wide base so there’s no chance of it disappearing into a brown hole.  It tapers from the tip to the widest part so it makes it easily insertable.  It’s made out of Seamless Silicone and is completely body safe which is an absolute must.  It’s soft and nice to touch.  It’s got all the bells and whistles you’d expect for a high end product, USB Rechargeable, toy connects to the charger via a magnet that actually works and holds tight unlike other toys, battery life is good, splashproof, travel-friendly, comes in a nice case and comes with a 1-Year Warranty.

 

Anal play – Take 2

So butt play was back on.  We got the Novice Plug out, lubed up, had some foreplay and I let my partner be in complete control and he was so gentle and slow that I had nothing to fear.  It entered fairly easily surprisingly, probably because I wasn’t all that nervous.  It’s small enough that it’s not intimidating at all which put me at ease and my partner knew that he had to take it super slow.   We didn’t go past half way with the vibrations strength, it was enough for me to enjoy having a different and fun experience.  It had a great novelty factor for me because it was my first time with a butt plug.  As I get more used to it we’ll be able to crank up the vibrations to a stronger level.

 

Wrapping up

We’ve used it several times since my first experience and anal play is really growing on me, it turns out that anal play is right up my alley (pun intended lol).  We haven’t used it in public yet but I look forward to it when we do.  All in all the Novice Plug was perfect for a butt plug and anal play novice like myself.  After I get used to butt plugs, before I move on to dildos I’ll try some anal beads.

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