Body shaming is unfortunately something which appears everywhere. In magazines, on television, even social media is full of adverts to ‘lose weight instantly’. They want us to be more tanned, skinnier, taller, slimmer, smoother. Why? To sell their products. Celebrities are seen with circles drawn around them picking out their flaws in bad angled photographs. People are encourage to nip and tuck until they look like Barbie dolls.
For the most of us though, we have become ignorant to this. We ignore the adverts, say screw the diet fads and are happy with what we have. Proud of our bodies. It’s not easy to get to the point of saying ‘Fuck it’ though, not when everyone is against you. Even my Grandma saying I have chubby thighs. But ‘respect your elders’ and all, I kept quiet.
The thing is though, this won’t stop others from saying things. Some are brain washed by the media to think that every body is perfect, everyone is airbrushed and photoshopped and cellulite doesn’t really exist. They want a barbie army.
I’m lucky as I am part of such a fantastic community of people who are beautiful no matter what their shape, size, color, height, sex, orientation etc. Being comfortable in your own skin is an amazing thing, but it doesn’t mean you always are.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
― Eleanor Roosevelt
I posted a photo and being honest, I was thinking more about how scruffy my hair looked than my ass! However someone found the need to comment on my appearance, voicing their concern. Their concern that my ass and legs were going downhill. Oh. You’re concerned? They advised I squat regularly. I was genuinely speechless.
As I mentioned though, I am part of an amazing community who all had something to say on the matter. Not only did I have support on twitter, there were twenty eight more comments, twenty eight proud voices who were able to stand up and say “Fuck you”.
When someone challenges your body negatively or anyone else’s for that matter, you have the right to put them in their place. It is bullying and it is not acceptable.
If I see anyone being body shamed, I will happily lend my support and help that person have a voice when they feel they don’t.
One of the biggest issues about feeling bad about our bodies is that we don’t love our bodies as we should and then we become insecure which makes it much harder to enjoy intimate moments with a partner if you’re thinking about your thighs or cellulite or whatever. Some even insist on having the lights off because they’re so uncomfortable with their own bodies. It’s such a shame because you’re missing out on exploring your sexuality and all the massive amounts of pleasure that come with it. The most attractive woman in the world is the woman who is comfortable with herself, confident in the bedroom and puts in some effort.
If you are insecure about your body, ask yourself this question, is your partners body perfect?
Neither of you are perfect and never will be so just enjoy yourselves and be grateful you’re alive and have your health.