Okay, so you may be asking what Bi Visibility Day is. That’s completely normal and it is at this point that I have been made obligated to tell you what it is. Basically this is a single day out of the whole year where you announce to the world that you are Bisexual and you get to deal with all the random invasive questions about liking both boys and girls or if you want to join your buddy and his wife in a threesome where your sexual preferences have no say so.
Even though I may have defined myself as being a lesbian or even bi starting in my teen years, over the last decade or so, that sense of sexual orientation that everyone has, I let go. This is something that feels amazing and let’s face it, it is no one’s business to know who you are sleeping with.
I date both women and men, even though its easier to date men because I am beyond lazy and its easier to find someone in the dating pool. But the label of being bi does get on my nerves. There isn’t anything wrong with the word, but I have found that it creates a bunch of questions that just continue on and on like the song that never ends. Even though I have given answers, questions still keep on coming at me.
I am not in the state of mind or at the age where I have to be interested in playing teacher in Sexual Orientation 101. I don’t have an interest in sleeping with you while your partner watches.
I get that Bi Visibility Day is about being able to put a stop to some of the actual stupidity that comes with being bisexual, but at this point, I am too old to deal with it and I gave up using the word.
I will just go on in life and do who and what I want to do. If a person asks me, I often just say that I am queer. If they want an explanation, I just say that I am easy. I don’t feel an obligation to put my sexuality into a tiny box with a label. I don’t have to explain myself to anyone but myself.
I understand that this approach is a bit simplistic and it won’t work with everyone, but this is what works for me.