Individual sexual choices and lifestyles vary greatly from person to person and when exploring sex and sexuality what will do it for one may be a total turn-off for another. Anal play has been practiced by humans for thousands of years. The ancient Romans, Egyptians and Greeks were fascinated by it. It is thought that the first use of beads for sex play was by Cleopatra who also had images depicted of her using a dildo. Olive oil was commonly used as a lubricant and Petronius a Roman courtier 27-66AD wrote in his novel:
“Oenothea held up a leather dildo which she oiled and covered in pepper and crushed nettle seeds and began pushing it up my arsehole, inch by inch.”
With anal play growing in popularity throughout history, people can now buy anal beads at sex toy stores. With this in mind I wanted to explore the practices of anal play through the use of anal beads.
What are anal beads?
Anal beads are sex toys that consist of multiple spheres, balls and other circular or cylindrical shapes that are held together to form a line that is inserted into the anus to give erotic pleasure. The most popular are tapered in size the end bit (the side you insert first) being the smallest and increasing in size with each ball. Other variations may be all the same size or randomly different sizes. These balls may be held together by a string (Thai beads) or the same material as the balls whether that is rubber, plastic, latex, glass, silicone or steel. Anal beads may be vibrating or non-vibrating.
Versatility is the beauty of anal beads as they can be used in solo play, foreplay, couples play and as a prelude or conclusion to anal sex. They can also be used either by men who will stimulate their prostate and achieve a ‘P-spot orgasm’ or by women who do not have a prostate but would like to experience ‘anal orgasms’. The smaller sizes can be used for beginners of anal play. Another option for beginners to anal play is butt plugs. You can read about my first adventure with anal and butt plugs here.
They’ve also been really popular in popular culture as evidenced by these two clips:
How to use anal beads
The most common way for women to use them is to slowly insert them, stopping as each bead passes through the narrow sphincters in the anus. As the balls increase it will cause dilation until the largest size is reached. Some women will repeat this procedure whilst others will then move the beads inwards and outwards increasing speed to simulate real anal sex. Men will insert the beads into the anus until the Prostate gland is found. Then they will stimulate it by moving it backwards and forwards over the prostate to cause an ejaculation. This method is called ‘milking the prostate’.
Another method that is very popular with Thai Beads is to fully insert the string and balls. Then lightly jiggle the string with slight pressure that will cause each ball to ‘pop’ out of the anus. When the ball or bead is between the internal and external sphincter muscles it will cause constriction of the anus.
During couples sex anal beads are often introduced just prior to the woman orgasming vaginally. This will intensify the orgasm and in many cases women report having intense blended orgasms. A blended orgasm is when an orgasm is experienced simultaneously from two different parts of the body. Women can achieve orgasm from the clitoris, labia, vagina, G-spot, A-spot and anally as a result of stimulation or penetration. Men experience orgasms from the penis and the Prostate.
Rather than just using the anal beads on their own, they can also be inserted into the vagina or anus during penetrative sex. If you are planning on using anal beads in this way it is recommended that the anal beads have a method of retrieval that will not be dislodged during penetration. When the anal beads of fully inserted, a lover can insert their erection or dildo inside and gently thrust. The anal beads will move alongside the thrusts for additional stimulation.
As with any sexual activity revolving around the anus plenty of lubricant should be used. The anus does not self-lubricate and also absorbs water so re-application is often required. Also if any part of the anal beads is porous, like the string, attention to disinfection and cleaning of the sex toy before and after each use is imperative to ensure safety. Any anal toys should not be shared, but if they are precautions such as placing a condom over it and using anti-bacterial spray should be used.
Anal Beads Wrap up
There is a high concentration of nerve endings in and around the anus that will allow intense sexual enjoyment when using anal beads if done properly. The pudendal nerve in the external sphincter muscle actually branches to the dorsal nerve of the clitoris in women and the penis in men. This is why many fetishes are known to include anal beads to heighten sexual desire and/or gratification during intimate play. More popular ones include ass worship, enema play, BDSM, spanking, cuckold play, pegging and of course anal sex.